When we hear “erogenous zone”, we immediately think about where we like to be touched. And that’s true. But…it’s not just about that.

Us again! And today marks already the final part of our series on keeping the desire alive - can you believe it?

First, a quick refreshing of the past weeks. Remember, desire is like music. And as exciting as it can be in the beginning, as dull it can become when we know the music by heart. But…we are the musicians! So, how do we keep the music alive? By prioritizing intimacy, preventing monotony, taking time for ourselves, and focusing on our relationship.

But of course, there is more…

We’re back!

In our last article, we compared desire to music - how exciting it is the first times you hear it, and how it can fade with time. But we also delved into the keys to keeping that music alive: prioritizing intimacy and the need for tempo changes to prevent monotony. Now, let’s dive into the next ones.

Summer is here. We can relax and enjoy life just a little bit more. No routine, more time. Longer days and warmer nights. It’s the perfect moment to connect, reconnect, or connect more deeply with our partner(s). So, we thought, what better time to talk about desire and, in particular, how to keep it alive in relationships?

Is there a good way to say “No”?

It turns out there is. Researchers have examined the matter and have found that the way in which we reject our partners’ sexual advances impacts not only sexual satisfaction but also relationship satisfaction.

Have you ever felt out of sync with your partner's sexual desire?

You're not alone. Desire discrepancies are among the most frequent challenges in relationships. And one of the first reasons why partners seek professional help.

Are you sexually satisfied? You probably have a prompt answer. And your answer is most likely not very nuanced; variations of “yes”, “no”, and “more or less” are rare. But what does sexual satisfaction actually mean?

Scientists have studied sexual satisfaction for quite a (relative) time. They have been able to determine that…

Our sexual fantasies. Most of us start blushing just by the thought of them. And most of us even feel a bit ashamed of them. But let me tell you: your sex fantasies are way less uncommon than you think.

Have you ever been disappointed by an orgasm? It was almost there. The big firework. But then it was, well…just a little spark. Frustrating? For sure. But no two orgasms are the same.

Porn exists and porn is watched. A lot. And that’s totally fine. Porn is not bad. What becomes dangerous though, is when we forget that porn is an illusion. We know that porn sex is not real sex. But do we really know to what extent?

Does the number of orgasms we have determine our level of sexual satisfaction? Not only. But mostly. And when we compare how often heterosexual men orgasm versus heterosexual women[1], calling it an imbalance is an understatement. The difference is so significant that…

“Females orgasm less often than males[1]”. It’s true. Unfortunately. But in heterosexual relationships. We hear, read, and say this over and over again. But do we ever hear, read, and say why?

The reasons are…

Let me ask you: Do you know your erogenous zones? I bet most of you are nodding their head. But if I ask you to list them, how many are non-genital?

Let’s start with…

Who never faked an orgasm? Raise your hand!

If there is one thing that has been consistent in studies since the ‘70s, it is that people are faking orgasms. And when I say people, I mean…

When combining the words sexual and organ, few think of the brain. Yet, that’s our most important one. Because that’s where the magic – and the gloom – happens.

When you hear foreplay, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Kissing? Sexting? Climax? Probably not. For most of us, foreplay implies the sexual acts preparing for penetrative sex. Because that’s what we were taught.

It’s not incorrect, but…

We don't know much about the intimacy of those around us, yet we sometimes think that their sexual life is better, richer, and more exciting than ours. This feeling is human, and this feeling is common. But there is a large gap between perception and reality.

We all have beliefs. And as they shape our perceptions and behaviors, they also influence our sexual satisfaction. I will tell you how.

What if a simple test could tell us if we are sexually compatible with someone? Impossible? Well, researchers have been working on it. And the results might surprise you.

Who has never heard that sex is good for their health? Probably no one. But do you actually know why?

Here it is.