The fact that people fake orgasms (and pleasure) is not new. It has actually been documented for over a century! And the numbers are not low either: one study found that 90% of its participants -across all genders- had pretended at least once to orgasm or to appear more turned on than they really were. Yes, you read right: nine-zero. That’s a lot of pretending. You would think researchers would be lining up to explore the topic, but no. Despite how common and layered faking orgasms is, it remains woefully understudied. Luckily, one group of researchers did want to shed light on the mystery of faking orgasms, and more specifically, why people do so.

The fact that people fake orgasms (and pleasure) is not new. It has actually been documented for over a century! And the numbers are not low either: one study found that 90% of its participants -across all genders- had pretended at least once to orgasm or to appear more turned on than they really were. Yes, you read right: nine-zero. That’s a lot of pretending. You would think researchers would be lining up to explore the topic, but no. Despite how common and layered faking orgasms is, it remains woefully understudied. Luckily, one group of researchers did want to shed light on the mystery of faking orgasms, and more specifically, why people do so.

The fact that people fake orgasms (and pleasure) is not new. It has actually been documented for over a century! And the numbers are not low either: one study found that 90% of its participants -across all genders- had pretended at least once to orgasm or to appear more turned on than they really were. Yes, you read right: nine-zero. That’s a lot of pretending. You would think researchers would be lining up to explore the topic, but no. Despite how common and layered faking orgasms is, it remains woefully understudied. Luckily, one group of researchers did want to shed light on the mystery of faking orgasms, and more specifically, why people do so.

This week, I’m revisiting the very first article I ever published here. Back then, only a handful of people were reading, yet I still remember how nervous I felt hitting ‘publish’.

This piece introduced something that has since become a cornerstone of how I talk about sexuality: the Egg Metaphor. Over time, I’ve seen how it opens doors in so many conversations: it sparks curiosity, softens shame, and reminds us that difference doesn’t’ mean dysfunction or a lack of skill.

The sun is coming back, the days are getting longer, and summer’s heat is knocking on our doors. Sun on our skin? Yes! Sticky nights and sweaty sheets? Not so much. And it turns out, temperature plays a bigger role in our sex life than you might think.

Did you know our largest organ is our skin? It’s packed with millions of sensory receptors that are constantly sending and receiving complex signals. Touch isn’t just a feeling, it’s a fundamental form of communication. And it’s one of our most powerful senses when it comes to emotional well-being.

Last time, we saw how our gut is about much more than just what we eat. It’s actually no less than a second brain. And since we know that our biggest sex organ is our brain, no wonder our gut also influences our sexual well-being!

So, what can you do to improve your gut – and sexual - health?

I say “gut”, you think tummy, digestion, nutrient absorption. That’s correct. But much more is happening down there. So much so that our gut is now called our “second brain”. See, there is a reason why we feel butterflies in our stomach or “go with our gut”. Researchers have found that our gut influences our mood, cognition, immunity, and even our behavior.[1] So, naturally, they have also explored whether there is a connection between our gut and our sexual health and wellness. And, you guessed it, there is.

Think about your last orgasm. If I ask you to rate it, can you? Was it a 10? Or a 6? Or maybe a 2? Rating your physical sensations shouldn’t be that difficult. But rating your subjective experience is something else. Well, researchers decided to tackle that challenge. And yes, they developed a scale to evaluate it.

Think about your last orgasm. If I ask you to rate it, can you? Was it a 10? Or a 6? Or maybe a 2? Rating your physical sensations shouldn’t be that difficult. But rating your subjective experience is something else. Well, researchers decided to tackle that challenge. And yes, they developed a scale to evaluate it.

We’re back for our last article of the series – already! After having discussed if and how you should share your sexual fantasies, then if you should act on them, today, we’ll guide you to act them out with fun and confidence.

So, that’s it, you’re ready to take the leap: you feel ready and excited to realize your fantasy. Yay to you! But you’re not sure how exactly to proceed? Keep on reading, we’ll tell you all.

We’re back!

Last time, we kicked off our series by discussing if and how we should share our sexual fantasies with partners. Now, just because you choose to share a fantasy doesn’t mean you want to act on it. You might want to talk about sexual fantasies to spice things up, deepen intimacy, or get to know your partner (even) better. Or you might want to play them out. So, this week, we’ll help you figure out whether your fantasy is something you actually want to bring to life or would rather leave in your imagination.

Do you sometimes daydream about playing out your sexual fantasies in real life? You’re not alone. But then you doubt, hesitate, and feel a little embarrassed? You’re not alone either. And we’ve got you. Should you share your sexual fantasies? Should you act on them? Should you leave them as they are? Over the next few weeks, we’ll cover it all. So, get ready for the ride.

This week, we’ll explore if - and how - you should share your sexual fantasies. Because yes, before enacting them, you’ll have to voice them. And that’s rarely the easiest part.

So, it’s the beginning of the year. And with a new year come (tons of) good resolutions. Eating better, sleeping more, practicing meditation, being more active, dedicating more me-time, being more mindful… All on the list! But how many of us dedicated a bullet point to our sexual wellbeing?

Sexual wellbeing might seem straightforward. Except that it isn’t.

Christmas is approaching, with its bells, songs, and legends. And while these tales bring magic, the same isn’t true when it comes to our sex life. Yes, sexual myths do exist. But no, they (unfortunately) don’t add to our magic.

It might be the first time you hear about it. And if that’s the case, you may wonder what exactly afterplay is. Well, let’s go straight to the point:

Masturbation. Besides a probable little blush, for most of us, it evokes self-stimulation happening when we’re alone and ending in orgasm. That’s true. But masturbation is a lot of other things, too. Granted, there is no one universal definition. So, let’s start by agreeing on one: masturbation is when we stimulate our own genitals to enjoy pleasurable sensations or experience orgasm[1]. Are we all good on this? Good.

Now, our topic today is mutual masturbation. What’s that?

It’s no secret: orgasms are generally followed by a powerful release and sense of well-being. But orgasms can also trigger a range of unexpected –and sometimes surprising- reactions. Ready to open the post-orgasm reactions box?

Who doesn’t like good sex? And what about great sex? But what actually makes the difference between the two? It’s a hard one, I know. Don’t worry, I’ll tell you all.

“Top 100 Bedroom Slow Playlist”, “Erotic Music for Sex”, “Top 50 Songs to Have Sex To”, “The Ultimate Sex Playlist”,… Music platforms overflow with playlists to have sex to. A sexy song for a sexy time. Seems quite straightforward. But does it actually really make sex better?